All of the men we work with, whether married, dating, or single, want women to feel safe with them. It's important to them that women trust them — that women feel secure around them (even if that's "just" on a dating app).
And women don't tend to feel deeply safe unless they feel claimed.
In one woman's words: “When a man doesn’t claim me, I feel anxious and stressed and find myself not wanting to be vulnerable."
Another said, "When a man doesn't claim me it feels confusing… like, 'Huh?' I'm like, 'Wtf is happening?' I feel anxious and unsettled, and I don't want to open up and be vulnerable. I feel wary and the need to be hypervigilant."
Claiming doesn't mean dominating. It's not about overpowering. Here, we go into depth around what claiming is and isn't, and how you can do it well. The good news? When you know how to claim well, your dating and sex life will improve. Your current relationship will get hotter and smoother.
If you're a man who wants women to feel safe with you, this is one to listen to.
Memorable quotes from this episode:
- "When I feel claimed I feel safe and held. It makes me trust him and his leadership / guidance / direction."
- "I can surrender and experience joy and be playful. I'm more willing to come along for the ride without having to worry about all the nitty-gritty details, like whether or not I'll be protected."
- "I'd follow him anywhere."